We seem to slip so easily into the traditional gender roles of breadwinner and housekeeper. So many men still earn more than women. And even if they don’t so often the woman in a relationship still takes on the brunt of the housework and childcare.
There are articles about it, but I’m seeing it in the people around me. “I’m doing the cooking, cleaning and shopping” several women friends have told me. Some are also homeschooling and working during the coronavirus lockdown too. Others have lost their work.
I don’t know which is worse. To have to work on top of it all or to lose that work that for some many women I know is an important part of their identity.
When something like the coronavirus invades our lives, we do what we have to and are grateful that we and the people we love are healthy. But it’s as if so many women I know have taken a step back in time falling away from themselves and the things that fulfill them into a time when women were dependent on men for certain kinds of security.
We’ve experienced this before. Throughout history women have rocked back and forth between dependence and independence to greater or lesser degrees.
From what I can see, each time we come back stronger. Evolution is a slow process that I trust. But it’s not so easy when you’re one the other side of it.